There is room for delicacy in Dominance. It’s not all hard hands and sore arses. I can assert myself gently, fingers against lips, fingers in mouth, hand against your wrist. It’s about knowing when to build to a crescendo with the cymbal bash, and when to just slide them together, let it build and build into something altogether more satisfying. The orchestra needs the punctuation, but an exclamation mark should be used sparingly.
It’s the delicate moments that let me really know. Anyone submits when there’s a collar around their neck, a cock stuffed deep between their legs and a heavy hand against their body, one wrapped around both wrists and the other tight around their neck. You have no choice, in that moment, because I’ve taken it from you. I don’t care if you willingly submit, because I’ve taken control, seized it with a military coup, all pomp and might and big guns.
Present you with the choice, though, and you’ll submit willingly. You have the choice to pull away, close your lips and stare me down. You can move your head back and you can shake your head. You can reach up and move my hand away. You can say ‘No’. But instead you accept me. No. Not accept. Surrender to. You wave the white flag. You let me win.
I occupy you.
Ah, that’s the big secret isn’t it. Some people might not like to diverge this kind of information because this is a competitive industry and you are now competition. Girls especially can really throw down when you mess with their money, this is actually one of the disadvantageous of working in a dungeon sometimes.
Ok, so, a lot of good places to advertise or whatever are area specific but since you only work over the phone I guess that doesn’t really matter for you. The only places on the internet that I have actually ever gotten real clients from are craigslist, collarme, and I think some yahoo groups. There used to be some guy in New Zealand who would pay good money just to see me through webcam with my hair down, no nudity or anything. You also might try to get your own website and then pay google to promote it. This is one of the things your dungeon does for you. But that only works if you are willing to invest money to get more clients.
I also want to warn you that webcam sessions put you at risk to have your videos secretly recorded by the other party and sold around the internet. If you keep your Domme life separate from your real one, or if you have or are planning to get a “real” job, I personally would be hesitant to do these kinds of sessions.
I’m not sure what taking it slow would be. I suppose you could try it first in your personal life or visit Paddles and check out the BDSM scene, but to be honest that’s not the same type of clientele you will actually get as a Prodomme. You could try maybe doing a few sessions on your own, through craigslist or something, but I actually think this is an even bigger plunge than starting in a place where other people can lend you their experience. But yes, even at a dungeon, this is a baptism-by-fire type of work. And some people no matter how prepared can not handle doing this kind of work. I’ve seen many girls join my dungeon and fade away pretty quick. Also, I didn’t have to buy much because my dungeon provided a lot of equipment so I would actually get hired first and see what’s what so you will know what you personally need to buy.
I love how simple this picture is. If you knew nothing about her it’s nice. But if you do it make your heart skip a beat with how sexy she is.
I started when I was 17 and I really don’t associate my becoming a Professional Dominatrix as coming into my sexuality. I find a lot of my work to be great fun. I laugh harshly while mentally and physically overpowering my clients, even while doing strap-on when that was appropriate, but with the exception of wrestling I don’t find any of the deeds I do with my clients as sexually anything personally. They get off on it, I don’t (it’s just good fun.) That is the difference between lifestyle and professional.
Mistress Darcy and I are currently working on something that should help out a lot - because we have also found that their is a lack of good information about how to become a Prodomme. I personally received almost no training, it was baptism by fire. That is why I suggest if you can starting off at a dungeon. It’s easier to get a lot of different clients safely under your belt and maybe you can ask a more experienced Mistress for tips beforehand. Some dungeons will tell you what you need to buy to become a dominatrix there, mine did not though. If you have questions about this let me know. And if you do not have a dungeon in your area, I will do my best to assist your attempts at being a private Prodomme.
Reblog if you are vegetarian! (If you eat seafood, but no meat you should still reblog this.) Sorry, kosher doesn’t count, lol!
Claire as Little Red!
don’t talk. just listen.
So many ideas…
Disturbingly beautiful clay/porcelain sculptures by Israeli artist Ronit Baranga
The use of fingers and mouths in my work is full of intent and meaning. The fingers and the mouth are very sensual organs in the human body and are therefore very powerful as separated items from it. The “seamless” combination of these organs in plates or cups, appearing as one, creates, in my opinion, new items that “feel” their environment and respond to it - Ronit (interview with Empty Kingdom)
I like odd